Well the park visit went as expected...
A glimpse of conversation.
Run off to round-up Owen.
Bring Owen back to the playground.
Resume conversation for a minute,
and repeat Owen round-up.
I wish this town had a fenced playground!
But it actually wasn't as bad as it sounds.
Sure I was knackered after running all over the place for Owen but there were also moments when he stayed and played, or had a drink or something to eat, so I did get little bits of conversation and Cy had a really great time with his friend.
So on the whole, it wasn't easy but it was worth it.
I also worked out that the kids are much faster at running down and rounding-up Owen than I am! (mental note: invite more kid helpers next time).
Wednesday, January 23, 2013
Monday, January 21, 2013
Stay or go?
Meant to meet with a new friend at the playground in an hour or so. Cy is good buddies with her little boy. I know Owen, I *know I will be chasing him all over the place, he loves to RUN away at this playground and he is fast!
I hate that I feel like quitting, throwing in the towel because chasing Owen around seems too flipping hard today. I hate that I will be running after my child instead of enjoying a conversation and getting to know this new friend. Owey is going to be 4 in March but when i am chasing Owen all over the place I feel like i am still parenting an 18 month old........I'm tired....
I am going to go to the park, Cy needs to play with his friend and my needs for connection and conversation are just going to take a back seat...again...and I have to give Owen a chance, the chance to make a mistake and learn from it, (and then repeat it again and again) hoping that maybe one day it will click,- Go to the playground and play THERE.
Okay so will post later how it goes.
I hate that I feel like quitting, throwing in the towel because chasing Owen around seems too flipping hard today. I hate that I will be running after my child instead of enjoying a conversation and getting to know this new friend. Owey is going to be 4 in March but when i am chasing Owen all over the place I feel like i am still parenting an 18 month old........I'm tired....
I am going to go to the park, Cy needs to play with his friend and my needs for connection and conversation are just going to take a back seat...again...and I have to give Owen a chance, the chance to make a mistake and learn from it, (and then repeat it again and again) hoping that maybe one day it will click,- Go to the playground and play THERE.
Okay so will post later how it goes.
Monday, January 7, 2013
Give him a go!
Cy (Owens 5 year old brother) has been having trouble with counting objects, he makes mistakes because he often skips an object, (don't know what's going on there) so over the past week we have been practicing counting - we count everyday objects, cars, toys, biscuits, sausages ......
I am trying to keep it fun but, I would be lying if I didn't tell you he is frustrating the hell out of me!
So anyway while i am being frustrated by Cys effort, I turn around and there is Owen sitting there counting ..... deliberately, slowly and perfectly! He understands and can use one to one correspondence!! WTH?!
When we started out on this journey, I thought I would be the LAST person to underestimate Owen! I thought I would be his champion and advocate, shouting from the roof tops to let him have go...now I realize I do underestimate him.....and I realize what a blessing it is to have these two boys Cy and Owen so close in age (even though they don't get on that great) and even though it has me tearing my hair out most days, they learn a lot from each other (good and bad!!), and O gets exposure to things through Cy that I don't think he will understand yet...but maybe he just might.....
I am trying to keep it fun but, I would be lying if I didn't tell you he is frustrating the hell out of me!
So anyway while i am being frustrated by Cys effort, I turn around and there is Owen sitting there counting ..... deliberately, slowly and perfectly! He understands and can use one to one correspondence!! WTH?!
When we started out on this journey, I thought I would be the LAST person to underestimate Owen! I thought I would be his champion and advocate, shouting from the roof tops to let him have go...now I realize I do underestimate him.....and I realize what a blessing it is to have these two boys Cy and Owen so close in age (even though they don't get on that great) and even though it has me tearing my hair out most days, they learn a lot from each other (good and bad!!), and O gets exposure to things through Cy that I don't think he will understand yet...but maybe he just might.....
Thursday, January 3, 2013
When to help?
Owen surprises me sometimes.
Like this picture he made using a magnetic toy we got for Cy back in November for his birthday.
He spent quite along time on this picture "hat-man" and the only direction I gave was to point to the long rectangle pieces and suggest they could be arms but he was the one that picked the pieces up out of the left hand side tray and put them on (and he chose to flip those two pieces over so the magnetic strip is up). He was getting pretty frustrated with the eyes and mouth as they weren't in exactly the right spot and his fine motor control is still clumsy (he barely has a pincer grip - actually- at best I would call it very weak). (So while I was wildly impressed with his art work I am also feeling guilty that I have never worked on fine motor skills with him). I felt sad when he cried out in frustration because he was trying to get the pieces in just the right relationship to each other and due to his clumsiness one of the other pieces would get moved as he placed the next piece.
At one point I thought he was about to completely lose it as he had knocked the eyes out of position (again) so I did step in to put the eyes back in their places, part of me wishes I hadn't touched his work but the other part (the instinctive part) knows he might have picked up the tray and hurled it at that point, he just needed that tiny bit of (emotional) support and he kept working on the person and then that hat kept growing .........and growing.
When I reflected on it later I thought that, knowing "when to and how to" support my kids and when to "let them be" is the hardest part of parenting for me, I don't want things to be hard for my kids, I don't want them to be frustrated with the detail so that they give up on the bigger picture.
But I know I step in too quickly most of the time, I need to step back and wait and to give them more time and as little help as necessary (at just the right moment) (hey no pressure!!!) but it does make a difference, because Owen was really proud (me too) of his finished "hat man" so when I got the camera out to take some photos, Owen went and picked up the torch he had been playing with earlier and pretended to take photos of "hat man" too (you can see him holding the torch "taking a photo of hat-man" on the bottom edge of the photo)
So this also got me thinking about how important it is to give Owen different kinds of materials because there is no way he could ever draw something like this (like an average child might) especially with his weak fine motor skills. But maybe I can give him things like these magnetic shapes (preformed shapes) like a ?paper plate and ?some stickers or ?leaves and he can stick them on ? I am not a crafty person, it's just not me !
BUT I can see now how important it is - because theres stuff in there, in his head- he just needs to have the right materials to creatively express himself.
Crap this learning curve is steep
Like this picture he made using a magnetic toy we got for Cy back in November for his birthday.
He spent quite along time on this picture "hat-man" and the only direction I gave was to point to the long rectangle pieces and suggest they could be arms but he was the one that picked the pieces up out of the left hand side tray and put them on (and he chose to flip those two pieces over so the magnetic strip is up). He was getting pretty frustrated with the eyes and mouth as they weren't in exactly the right spot and his fine motor control is still clumsy (he barely has a pincer grip - actually- at best I would call it very weak). (So while I was wildly impressed with his art work I am also feeling guilty that I have never worked on fine motor skills with him). I felt sad when he cried out in frustration because he was trying to get the pieces in just the right relationship to each other and due to his clumsiness one of the other pieces would get moved as he placed the next piece.
At one point I thought he was about to completely lose it as he had knocked the eyes out of position (again) so I did step in to put the eyes back in their places, part of me wishes I hadn't touched his work but the other part (the instinctive part) knows he might have picked up the tray and hurled it at that point, he just needed that tiny bit of (emotional) support and he kept working on the person and then that hat kept growing .........and growing.
When I reflected on it later I thought that, knowing "when to and how to" support my kids and when to "let them be" is the hardest part of parenting for me, I don't want things to be hard for my kids, I don't want them to be frustrated with the detail so that they give up on the bigger picture.
But I know I step in too quickly most of the time, I need to step back and wait and to give them more time and as little help as necessary (at just the right moment) (hey no pressure!!!) but it does make a difference, because Owen was really proud (me too) of his finished "hat man" so when I got the camera out to take some photos, Owen went and picked up the torch he had been playing with earlier and pretended to take photos of "hat man" too (you can see him holding the torch "taking a photo of hat-man" on the bottom edge of the photo)
So this also got me thinking about how important it is to give Owen different kinds of materials because there is no way he could ever draw something like this (like an average child might) especially with his weak fine motor skills. But maybe I can give him things like these magnetic shapes (preformed shapes) like a ?paper plate and ?some stickers or ?leaves and he can stick them on ? I am not a crafty person, it's just not me !
BUT I can see now how important it is - because theres stuff in there, in his head- he just needs to have the right materials to creatively express himself.
Crap this learning curve is steep
Tuesday, January 1, 2013
Just photos - camping and NYD
Okay so time for few words and many photos. Of course it is summer here and over the xmas/new year break we packed up and went camping in the bush, the boys had such a great time, it was a really beautiful trip
This boy LOVES his dads ute !
Owen and Col sharing the love (of rocks!) (Col is a geologist)
See the giant leaf insect on Cols elbow? Cy wanted to hold it but couldnt bring himself to do it Lol
He was much braver with this gecko
A visitor before dinner
and another visitor (Cy was loving it!) we even saw sugar gliders at night gliding from tree to tree
Early morning camp breakfast
My bush baby
a rare photo of me (I am usually behind the camera)
Ha I love this shot 'ole Ma and Pa
We did a fantastic walk through some amazing rock formations (isnt this one amazing!). Owen walked the whole way over pretty uneven ground 2.6kms took us about 2 hours (with a stop for morning tea).
These boulders were huge and you could walk right in amongst them, it felt like we were in a cathedral
a rock just the right size for a rest, he did so great!
After a few days camped we headed back down to the town and for lunch at the pub.
Owen saw this sign on the front of the pub and said "cream, cream, cream" (icecream). We ordered our meal and the whole time Owen was telling the cook "cream, cream, cream"
The cook was so sweet she brought Owen a bowl of icecream to have.... with his chips! Owen was VERY appreciative with lots of "mmmmmmmming" it must have hit the spot after all that bushwalking.
As we were leaving the pub we met a man who used a walking stick, Owen took for a spin, it was so funny he walked up and down the verhanda of the pub with it, Cy stepped in to take it back to the man...which of course resulted in an argument.
After those days in the bush yesterday was New Years Day and we decided to make a break for the beach its a 2.5 hour one way trip but SO worth it we all enjoyed it so much, definately washed the woodsmoke and dirt from camping away.
"working" on those balance skills
he started out very wobbly and tipped into the water all the time
but he mastered it by the the time we left
The water was so perfect and we stayed in for hours until we were all wrinkled before heading home
Happy New Year!
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